The Brutally Honest Guide to “Three Simple Steps to a Life of Achievement!”©
By James Grim
Introduction
What you are going to learn in the next few pages is something that will dramatically change your life forever. All of us at one time or another have tried something that we did not succeed at. Most people look at the failed result and say “oh well I guess it was not meant to be” or they will “CONVINCE” themselves that they just can’t do it and give up. If this sounds familiar or you want a fast track to “THE NEXT LEVEL” please read on.
The fact is that most people have great intentions and they start out by making a private statement to themselves about what it is they wish to accomplish. You will see a great deal of this type of activity around the first day of each New Year. Then they begin taking some form of action that starts them on their way toward achieving what they believe they want. The trouble starts when they are faced with their first obstacle and the going begins to get a bit tougher. It is at this point where many people start to have some angst or begin to become stressed. Why do you think they are becoming stressed? Could it be that they have been down this path before and FAILED? God forbid they may actually be afraid of success or just plain afraid!
Does any of this sound familiar to you? The reality is that if you have ever tried and failed at something you are not alone and you are not hopeless. In fact you are in the group of 97% of all people that do not achieve what they truly want. Now let’s get you to the 3% of achievers that live the life that THEY TRULY WANT AND DESERVE!
I promised you 3 simple steps and here they are.
STEP 1 Get Crystal Clear On What You Want!
Get ready to sit quietly with pen in hand (don’t cheat yourself you must write your thoughts) and write what it is that YOU really want. Close your eyes and think of what it is you want to achieve but as of yet you were not able to. Is it losing weight, making more money, having a better relationship with your kids, or simply wanting to get up each day and feel that your life has purpose and you are EXCITED to start the day? Now it is time to take massive and unstoppable action! Pick up your pen and write down a statement of what it is you truly want. Make the statement as detailed as possible. Don’t stop until you are mentally exhausted and you have really captured what it is you truly want. Use all of your senses of sight, hearing, touch, smell and taste to make your want statement come alive!
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You see this is where most people fail. They fail to really know what they want so they never achieve it. So make sure you are crystal clear on what it is you truly want. Make sure you do not go down the path of adding in what you do not want. Believe it or not, most people can more readily tell you what they do not want then what they really do want. It sounds silly but go ahead and try it on a friend. Ask them what they really want in terms of ______________ (you fill in the words). See what their response is. Does it sound convincing or do they stare blankly at you and say “that’s a good question”? You are darn right it is a good question and one that is far too often never asked. Many people start out their lives full of hope and unlimited possibility. Then as they grow and mature outside pressures such as society, marketing, relatives, relationships, teachers and many other inputs start to influence what they think about themselves. In our book, The Brutally Honest Life Management Journal, we devote many chapters to breaking down these barriers installed by these outside influences and we help our readers get to their “SOUL’s CORE”. Your SOUL’s CORE is a magical place where you are reunited with the REAL YOU and not “THE FAKE YOU” that was molded and manipulated by others. If you would like more information on the Brutally Honest Life Management Journal please visit us at www.brutallyhonestonline.com or go to Amazon or Barnes&Noble.
Ok so now you have your paper in front of you and you have a few paragraphs about what it is that you really want. By the way, if you are having trouble writing down what you truly want then this may be a clue that you really do not want what you think you want! Many times when you cannot write down what you want it is because this is not your passion. Perhaps it is something you “feel” you should do or someone else “wants” you to do it. If you cannot write down what you want then stop right here and choose something else to achieve because this is not your true passion.
You may be noticing that I am emphasizing the word passion. There is a reason for that! My belief is that passion is the inner driving force in us all. For some, the passion is buried deep under all of the pressures of living and surviving but believe me it is there inside of you if you only look for it! If you purchase The Brutally Honest Life Management Journal you will be guided step by step on how to reach your passion and create an absolute life of happiness and success. Do not allow yourself to have a sub-standard life you deserve more. Keep asking the questions and writing down what you want until you are crystal clear on what you REALLY are passionate about! Now let’s move to step 2.
STEP 2 Get Crystal Clear on Why You Want It!
Now that you have your written statement of what you really want to accomplish completed let’s move to step 2. Step 2 consists of writing down WHY you really want what to achieve what you want. Just knowing you want something will not give you the motivation to achieve your goals. You must write down your SUPER COMPELLING REASONS why you want to obtain what it is you want.
Before you begin I would like you to sit back, close your eyes and see, hear, feel, smell and taste what your life will be like when you accomplish your goal. Our Brutally Honest techniques advocate using all of your senses to really become your future while you are in the present. In The Brutally Honest Life Management Journal we show you how to use Visual, Auditory, Kinethetic, Olfactory and Gustatory (VOKAG) senses to make your future as vivid and multi-dimensional as possible!
IF you happen to choose losing weight then visualize how healthy you are and how you can now enjoy all of the activities you once only dreamed of. Really see yourself as having achieved what you want and feel the pride you have for being who you want to be. Know that you did this and you can now do ANYTHING because you have the secret! Let yourself get SUPERCHARGED with emotion and sheer joy! In your mind touch your body and feel how it is to be fit! Think of yourself as a health guru with unlimited power to do any activity when you want to. Doesn’t this feel better then saying “I guess I should lose some weight”? Have fun with words that make you feel unstoppable. Believe me this will go a very long way to feeding your mind only healthy thoughts.
Now at this peak emotional state start to write WHY you absolutely and positively MUST achieve your objective! There is no turning back at this point! You are already on your way to achieving whatever you want. Write as many reasons why you MUST achieve your goals as you can possibly think of. Do not allow your brain to come in and squash your passion with negative thoughts. Remember you control your brain and not the other way around. This is all about why you MUST achieve your goal. There are no barriers that cannot be overcome. Please understand that if you have ever failed in the past it is simply because you did not have a HUGE AND COMPELLING REASON to succeed! Have fun with seeing yourself doing what it is you want! See yourself as the powerful person that I know you are! Congratulations you are more than half way to achieving ANYTHING you want!
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If during this process you begin to think about what steps you will take to achieve your goal and you begin self sabotage by saying things like “I don’t know how to do that” or “they will never help me” stop and push those thoughts out of your conscious brain and KNOW that you WILL find the resources you need to achieve whatever you want. I know I keep stressing the idea of positive thought but it is through positive thoughts that positive actions are taken!
STEP 3 Take Huge and Unstoppable Action!
Let’s take a moment to summarize where you are on your journey. The first thing you did was to get crystal clear on WHAT it is that you really want to achieve. Secondly you got crystal clear on WHY you must succeed and why you will not fail. Now we are ready to create the map that will guide you as you go about achieving what we want.
The secret to step 3 is to take MASSIZE AND UNSTOPPABLE ACTION! It is now time to stop talking about what you want and start getting what you want. Here we go, start by turning to a new sheet of paper in your journal and write all of the steps you are absolutely COMMITTED to do to achieve what you wrote you wanted in step 1. For example if you said you wanted to have a better relationship with your spouse you would start by listing things like this
Make time when you come home to communicate with each other
Ask the other person how their day was.
Bring them a small gift (nothing big just something to show you are thinking of them). Maybe a token from your past courtship that would bring you both back to a happy time from the past.
Do something around the house to help the other person without being asked