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Girlie Girl, You Better Wear Your BIG HAT!




Dedication

This was inspired with you in mind, a woman like me who has struggled with wearing a hat. This is for anyone who has aspired to be beautiful, poised, and successful woman wearing their BIG HAT with such confidence. This is for anyone who has wondered how to OWN and BRAND their TAILOR MADE BIG HAT.





CREATE GREAT HABITS TO DEFINE YOUR FUTURE



Overview

Let’s get straight to it. You picked up this book because you want to know how to have an abundant THRIVING Lifestyle, right. Okay Awesome. Now, are you ready to attract your ideal clients? If your answer is Yes! Yes!, then this book is Mos’ Def for you. This is not your average book. It’s your new guidebook to becoming an entrepreneur. I know there are tons of competition out there, but Girlie Girl, you can still Wear Your Big Hat and look Fierce! Fab! & Fly! First, I will show you how to measure up into your “perfect” look.


Not only are you going to get the step-by-step on how to become a successful entrepreneur, also included are activities to rid yourself of toxins and destroy limiting believes that prevents Girlie Girls like you from WEARING and OWNING your BIG HAT. As a bonus, you will receive a template to create “Perceive It! Own It! Pursue It!” Vision Board.






Introduction

My WOW Moment


When I decided I wanted to become a Transformational Lifestyle Coach, I was broken, broke, and busted. Like, how was I going to coach anyone? Like, who would want to listen to me? More importantly, I did not know where to begin. My reality was that I was an educated suicidal depressed woman who wore multiple hats trying to survive in a world that wants cookie cutter behavior and outcomes. I bought into this reality for years. It only cost me a relationship with my children, peace, joy, and earned me $200,000 plus dollars in school debt.


After, graduating with my MBA, I decided to create a coaching/consulting program, iGLOW Consulting, to help women who struggled with similar experiences. I attended every workshop, seminar, and training I could get my hands on. I dialed into countless inspirational calls, read an abundant of self- help books, and volunteered at any event that gave me an opportunity to attend for free. I literally knew everything there was to learn, but an expert in nothing. Does that sound like anyone you know?


In 2015, I stumbled across Lisa Nichols at a Speak and Write Conference in LA. I was so inspired. She talked about releasing toxins and addressing our relationships with money and the importance of letting go. Now you would think after the three day conference, I was on my way to greatness; nope not the case. I went back to my comfort zone of teaching to suffer similar abuse parallel to my childhood. However after suffering workplace trauma for the third time, a failed marriage, and loosing all that I worked so hard to fight for, I decided I needed some help.


The most affordable way was to attend a Life Coaching workshop. I remember the instructor sharing his story and how he made a 6-Figure income from coaching, turning his pain into a purpose. He shared these great tips and even celebrated me, but that was not good enough. I was still in the same space, with the same mindset. Still starving, I attended more workshops, thinking I will get it this time; nope still didn’t get it.


Then I attended a Mega Fest with top of the league multi millionaires, which included Les Brown. He offered a workshop, unfortunately he never showed up, but I learned about this

meta-cognition framework called Neuro-Linguistic Programming. I was sold; finally I knew this would be it.


My goal was to get certified and BOOM, 6-figures here I come; LOL, nope not the case. In fact, I was further away than ever before; the only difference is that I had more knowledge. So now it’s 2016, I am still broken, busted, and broke. I thought to myself I have got to be the most unsuccessful educated person ever. What made it worse was that none of my BIG HATS fit, not even the “one size fits most”. Time passed, I attended another workshop for free, what I learned from there was the most valuable nugget, “Stop attending workshops, wasting time and energy, collecting information and not do anything with it.” Wow, POWERFUL right, well it was for me and it was on time.


So of course I continued attending workshops, but this time I am studying the speakers, presenters, and coaches; honing in on their behaviors, tone, style, overall presence and listening to every detail as they told their story of triumph. That’s when I knew that I was on the right path. I at that very moment realized, I have everything I need to empower, uplift,

and motivate myself like I do for everyone else. I needed to find the value in myself like I am so quickly to find in others. I finally saw myself worthy enough to look inward to solve outward problems. I finally envisioned myself on stage with thousands of folks as a speaker, writer, coach, and successful multiple figure entrepreneur sharing my Fierce! Fab! Fly! story of success, wearing my TAILOR MADE BIG HAT.


This book has the step-by-step process on how to Wear Your Big Hat. Throughout this guidebook, there will be extensive work taking place. You can expect to explore the why to creating your intentional life; ponder on various quotes and affirmations; from some of the most successful Girlie Girls who learned how to wear and OWN their BIG HAT; the elements on how to write a strategic sustainable business plan; what does it mean to intentionally brand and market yourself and business for success and address how your current relationship with money was affected through your childhood perception and experiences.


Bottom-line, I will help you build a business in a way that is intentional, manageable, and profitable. Cool, okay, Girlie Girl, let’s get started.











NOW Girlie Girl, LET’S DESIGN YOUR BIG HAT




But before we begin, there are some tasks you must take care of first.


  1. Sign Commitment pledge.

  2. Complete Accountability Partners.

  3. Write and sign My Task of DILIGENCE.

  4. Complete I am Aware.












I used to walk down the street like I was a super star… I want people to walk around delusional about how great they can be – and then to fight so hard for it every day that the lie becomes the truth.

– Lady Gaga Singer/Songwriter









Please read and sign this commitment pledge.



I, __________________________________ agree to commit myself to design my BIG HAT action plan


to achieve my goal of being a Successful Entrepreneur by _____________, 20________.

I will check in with my accountability partner once a week to share what I have


learned about myself and to share anything that comes up for me.



I will intentionally make the choice to spend a minimum of 30 minuets a day until I


complete this guide book.



This commitment is important to me because I deserve to be/have


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Signature:_________________________________________ Date:_____________________________________________



Witness:___________________________________________ Date: ____________________________________________






My Tasks of DILIGENCE



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Choose 2-3 folks you trust with your emotions thoughts, and ideas. As you begin custom designing your BIG HAT, you will need a support team to hold you accountable when things become frustrating. No worries, that is an okay place to be. But at any time, if it becomes too much, please take a break and contact someone for support.






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I AM Aware


These are my fears, insecurities, and barriers I must overcome to Wear my BIG HAT.



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Signature:_______________________________________________ Date:______________________________________



Witness:_________________________________________________ Date: _____________________________________




Remember your signature is a promise to yourself. You are the ONLY one who has the final say on whether you succeed or not.






Destiny is a name often given in retrospect to choices that had dramatic consequences.

--­ J.K Rowling








We All Have A Herformation Journey…Before we GLOW-In… Check my story out.


Unfortunately, a lot of my hats were a reflection of how I saw myself based on emotions, relationships, expectations, circumstances, and situations. I owned a lot of hats. Although I wore some very beautiful, trendy, risky, classy, and bold hats; most of them were hats of ugliness, smallness, sadness, fear, disappointment, abuse, self-sabotage, unworthiness, and painfulness.


I continuously chased an unattainable and unreliable future based on my distorted perception of life and experiences. (Have you been there before)? I knew that place, oh too well. Well I was at the point where I was going to have to do something drastic because I was operating with a crisis mindset. I was in survival mode. (You do know there is a tremendous difference between a survivor, living, and thriving mindset?) Well it is. And as soon as I made up my mind that I wanted to live, my approach to life changed. My perception changed. My behaviors changed.


In other words, until I addressed why I chose to unconsciously keep diversified negative associated assortment of hats, I was not going to own and wear any hat with confidence. I also realized in order to OWN my “Fierce! Fab! Fly!” brand, I had to be clear on what I wanted and was willing to do. Bottom-line no matter what hat I wore, I was in a constant battle with myself until I started to address the feeling that kept me in bondage.


I knew this change was going to push me past my comfort and lunge me into the uncertainty of life. It wasn’t until I fought my way through business school, unhealthy marriage, grief, post-partum depression, and disappointment that I was able to see myself as an asset. (Do you feel like you are in a place in life where you must do something different?) It was not until I was able to have the courage to leave behind a career, family, friends, and my business to trust in the voice of God and move to Atlanta, Georgia that I found peace. Nothing around me changed much, but the faith I had to trust in God allowed me to rest in God to know things will be okay. This was when I became an entry-level designer of my life.


I can honestly say I am much closer to being Golden Original Legendary and Wondrous (iGLOW) than ever before because I made the choice to walk in Courage, I manifest my Strength, and I remain Steadfast in my decision to have an abundant life (spiritually,



mentally, emotionally, and financially). Because my hat is tailor made, I am GLO_WIN with a clearer understanding of how Golden Original Legendary and Wondrous.


What I realized during my formation journey was that in order for me to OWN & WEAR my TAILOR MADE HAT I had to work through quite a few things. I had to learn how to rock my hat with CONFIDENCE, BOLDNESS, SELF-ACCEPTANCE. You get the idea, Right; my BIG HAT is my PERCEPTIONS and BELIEFS about myself.


It was the leap of faith and the belief that I deserved an abundant life and trusting in God that led us to cross paths. So, with that, please enjoy this journey.


On the next page write your personal journey snapshot. Please read it every morning and share it. Remember this journey to earning your Multi-Figure Income is also to show others that they too have the power to harness their abundant life when they “Look Inward to Solve Outward Problems” to live a THRIVING INTENTIONAL LIFESTYLE.





A JOURNEY REQUIRES US TO MOVE FORWARD














Intentionally change your mindset. Operate from a growth mindset oppose to a fix mind set. Accept failure as an opportunity for success.






Write your PERSONAL SNAPSHOP Story.


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Chapter One

What is Your Why Factor?


We have been told the formula to a successful life is that we have to get into a great college, get a job, make money, and one day, we can finally do what we want to do. That’s such a lie that a majority of us have bought into. Yes! Yes!, I am sure you have finally realized there is no one size hat fits most. Most of the successful women I know of went against this formula; they made an intentional choice to require a TAILOR MADE hat. Just look at Eleanor Roosevelt, Gabrielle Union, Lisa Nichols, Serena Williams, Tiffany Haddish etc.… They found their Big Hat because they were INTENTIONAL about designing their Lifestyle and they wore their Big Hat (took action and stayed consistent with a strategy). I think we can agree these Girlie Girls are Fierce! Fab! Fly!. Just like them, you can make a lot of money, doing what you love, having a platform to impact others and do it in a way that allows you to SLEEP in your BIG HAT.




I can’t just say one time of the year I’m going to do something different. I have to commit to a lifestyle behavioral change and just try to be a little bit better today than I was yesterday.

--Gabrielle Union







Pinpoint your “BIG HAT WHY”, now write your “WHY’’


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BIG HAT Inspiration

Women have always held it down but these women are noticed for their exceptional success. These women found their Fierce! Fab! Fly!. A number of the following successful women featured are great business leaders, role models, activists, entertainers, authors and politicians. Yes! Yes! They WEAR and OWN their BIG HAT


Entrepreneur/Personality


Passion is energy. Feel the power that comes from focusing on what excites you.”

– Oprah Winfrey

BIG HAT TIME







Make a list of things for 1 minuet that excites you?

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Comedian/Personality/Philanthropist



Ellen DeGeneres


I work really hard at trying to see the big picture and not getting stuck in ego. I believe we’re all put on this planet for a purpose, and we all have a different purpose… When you connect with that love and that compassion, that’s when everything unfolds.”




COO of Facebook



We cannot change what we are not aware of and once we are aware we cannot help but change.”

– Sheryl Sandberg



BIG HAT TIME





Write 1-3 outcomes that you know would have been different if you were intentional about your choices.



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Author/Poet


Maya Angelou

I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”





Founder of Spanx

Worlds Youngest Female Billionaire


Don’t be intimidated by what you don’t know. That can be your greatest strength and ensure that you do things differently from everyone else.

Sara Blakely



BIG HAT TIME






Think about 1 thing that you have done in your life that you did not have a clue about, but was successful at it. Now spend 2 minuets to write down how you felt.


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BIG HAT Tip: Do things that are uncomfortable. It will stretch and grow you into a remarkable person.

CEO of Yahoo


"I always did something I was a little not ready to do. I think that's how you grow. When there's that moment of 'Wow, I'm not really sure I can do this,' and you push through those moments, that's when you have a breakthrough."- Marissa Mayer


Billionaire J.K Rowling said it best, “It is our choices that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.” Yes! Yes! This is the total Truth. In our choices we find out who we are. If you don’t like a choice you have made I challenge you to dig deep within yourself to figure out what’s going on.


Good thing for you, you are in the right place. : )



Intentionally change your mindset to operate from a growth mindset oppose to a fix mind set in that you will accept failure as an opportunity for success.






Entrepreneurship

Now, let me be completely up front. Many women want to become entrepreneurs because they want flexibility, autonomy, freedom, creative control etc.… but fail to understand it takes commitment.


What are your reasons for wanting to become an entrepreneur?

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Girly, Girl, I had to learn this commitment concept the hard way. I expected my passion to yield me the results to earn multiple figure profit. I expected my friends and family to support encourage and invest in me. Now that was a super far reach. Not only did I not receive any of the aforementioned, they took me for a joke. Not the ha-ha funny get a laugh in but a yeah right Hazel Jay. Although their perception of me was skewed; I must admit I did have something to do with that; but we’ll talk about that in the branding chapter.


After multiple business ideas, expensive hobbies, epic failures profit gains, and battling between my creative entrepreneurial spirit; I learned the most valuable lessons.


  1. Entrepreneurship is not instant gratification.

  2. It is not a quick rich scheme.

  3. It’s hard as HELL.

  4. There are no short cuts.

  5. You have to work ridiculously hard in this game.

  6. You have to go in fully understanding failure is possible, but when you stick with it, the possibilities from those failures are endless.

  7. You will have to learn how to embrace failure; it takes courage to be a risk taker.

  8. You also have to learn no one owes you anything.

  9. You have to be willing to forfeit somethings.


Like my great aunt says,

You can not wear your feelings on your sleeve.”


Jot down some situations where you had to take a risk?

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