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16 Steps to Build Self-Confidence

Irene S. Roth

Copyright 2017 Irene S. Roth

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Table of Contents



Step 1: Build a Positive Mindset

Step 2: Minimize Negative Thoughts

Step 3: Get to Know Yourself

Step 4: Develop a Positive Attitude

Step 5: Develop Inner Beauty

Step 6: Live According to Your Values

Step 7: Determine Your Principles

Step 8: Stand Tall

Step 9: Set a Small Goal and Achieve It

Step 10: Smile

Step 11: Volunteer

Step 12: Fake It Until You Make It!

Step 13: Develop Your Own Style

Step 14: Don’t Compare Yourself to Others

Step 15: Believe in Yourself

Step 16: Dare to be the Real You!



About the Author


Do you believe in yourself?

Or do you sometimes fall into thinking that you’ll never be good at things?

Do you let others bully you?

Do you let others tell you what you should and should not do?

Do you struggle attracting good friends and end up with a bunch of people who really are abusive and don’t genuinely like you—yet you keep hanging out with them?

Do you have a negative self-image? Do you like who you see in the mirror?

Do you put yourself down both inside your head and in front of others?

Do you doubt yourself?

Do you get hurt a lot and accept it?

Do you feel inferior to your peers?

Do you struggle to hold onto your own principles and values, especially in social situations?

If you answered any of the above questions in the affirmative, you need to read this e-book.

In this e-book, I will define confidence and outline 20 simple ways that you can build self-confidence.

So, please sit down, get yourself a cup of java, and relax and enjoy this e-book.

~ To your self-confidence!

Irene S. Roth


What is confidence?

Confidence means feeling sure of yourself and your abilities – not in an arrogant way but in a realistic sure way.

Confidence isn’t about feeling superior to others. It is a quiet inner knowledge that you’re capable and lovable, just as you are.

It is also the belief that you can do anything that you set your heart on—regardless of what it is.

It is the belief that you won’t allow others to put you down without a fight.

Confident people:

• Feel secure rather than insecure;

• Know they can rely on their skills and strengths to handle whatever comes up;

• Feel ready for everyday challenges like tests, performances and competitions;

• Think I can instead of I can’t!

Why Confidence Matters

Confidence matters because it helps us feel ready for life’s experiences. When we’re confident, we’re more likely to move forward with people and opportunities – not back away from them. And if things don’t work out at first, confidence help us to get up and try again.

It’s the opposite when our confidence is low. People who are low on confidence might be less likely to try new things or reach out to new people. If we fail at something the first time, we might be less likely to try again. A lack of confidence can hold people back from reaching their full potential.

Why Believe in Yourself?

Has someone ever told you that you’re smart? Funny? Kind? A good student? A good writer? A good athlete?

When people praise us or recognize our skills and capabilities, it can build our self-confidence—as long as we believe these good things are true, too.

If you’ve ever doubted the good things people say about you, that’s the opposite of self-confidence.

To feel truly confident, you need to really believe you are capable. The best way to get that belief is by learning new skills and talents and practising them.

Confidence helps us move forward to discover and develop our capabilities. When we see what we’re capable of and take pride in our achievements, confidence gets even stronger.

In this e-book, I will show you how to build your self-confidence, one habit at a time.

I believe that building self-confidence happens in small steps and it continues throughout our whole lives. So, we must be patient.

This means that we will never be completely self-confident. Building self-confidence is a process. But we can certainly become more self-confident by taking a few simple steps every day.

So, without further ado, here is the first step to building self-confidence.

Step 1: Build a Positive Mindset

When we are young adults, we can feel uncomfortable with ourselves on many different levels.

We are usually trying to assert our needs and even determine what our needs and wants are.

We are certainly truly to live in a world that seems to do nothing but criticize us for not being perfect. And what is perfect changes daily.

This culture of criticism and cynicism in which we live seems to be very destructive to our self-esteem and self-confidence. But what is more, it can cause a lot of us to develop a negative view of ourselves.

Given our cynical culture, how we can cultivate a positive mindset. Well, here are a few tips to help you out:

1. Trust yourself – don’t keep second-guessing what you are doing all the time.

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