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Different Perspectives

for a Different World



Essays for Life

Revised Edition















Paula O’Sullivan































Copyright © 2017 Paula O’Sullivan


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I dedicate this book to my two lovely sons, Joshua & Matthew and to the memory of my parents, Lily and James O’ Sullivan, without whose help and influence, while alive and departed, this book may not have been possible. And also to the memory of my beautiful friend who passed over recently, Elsie Holmes. It is my gift to you and to anyone who reads this, so that you all may know, that you have the power within yourself, to end your own suffering and the suffering of others, by simply choosing better thoughts and letting right action follow on from there.

 

  

Namaste

(Sanskrit Prayer)

I honor the place in you in which the entire universe dwells, I honor the place in you which is of love, of truth, of light and of peace, when you are in that place in you, and I am in that place in me, we are one.


Table of Contents


Acknowledgments 12

Foreword 1

Chapter One 5

Ah Tis Nice to Be Nice 5

The What if Game 5

A Pause for Thought 7

Are You Getting Warmer? 9

Got the Rainy Day Blues? 11

Are You Still Looking to Be Saved? 12

Chapter Two 15

Luck Comes in Three’s, Don’t Ya Know? 15

The Club 16

Back on the Road to Enlightenment 18

Expectations 20

Choices 22

Licensed to Smile 24

Destination You 26

Making it Matter 28

Lessons 29

Chapter Three 33

Becoming Stronger 33

Are You the Poison or the Antidote? 34

Mission Possible 35

How Do We Get Hurt? 36

Oh God! Why Me? 38

The True Joy in life 39

Chapter Four 43

To Dream or Not to Dream 43

What Are You Waiting For? 44

The Blame Game 46

The Happiness Within 48

Prevention is Better Than Cure 49

Chapter Five 53

Are You Good Enough? 53

Life Advice 55

Are Your Beliefs Working For You? 57

Ripples 59

Chapter Six 61

The Painful Truth 61

Give Me Patience! 62

Dream Catcher 65

The Beauty Within 66

Chapter Seven 69

Stir Your Soul 69

The Power of Thought 70

Find Your Joy and Share it With Others 72

Kindness 74

The Power to Hurt or to Heal 75

So Tell Me About Affirmations 76

Chapter Eight 79

The Attitude of Gratitude 79

Personal Growth 81

Tapping Into Our Inner Power 83

So What the Heck Do You Want? 84

Free From Fear 87

Chapter Nine 91

Do You Surrender? 91

Are You Still Waiting For the Magic Wand? 92

Back on Track 93

Heaven on Earth 95

I know that readers of this essay will all have different beliefs, some will believe in God, some will use different terms, some use the word creator, spirit or higher power or other words and some of you don’t believe in anything. 95

Live to Give 96

The Great Escape 98

To Just Be… or to Just Do? 99

This New Day 101

What Are You Attracting? 102

Forgiveness: The Art of Letting Go 104

Chapter Ten 109

Seek and Ye Shall Find 109

The Gift of You 110

Choose Your Illusion 112

A Different Perspective 114

Unconditionally Yours 117



Different Perspectives for a Different World

Essays for Life

 

Back in 2009 Paula O’Sullivan became ill. She had similar symptoms to MS. After undergoing many tests, Paula had a crazy thought that she might have somehow created the illness herself. She began to research stress, and what she found, changed her life. She discovered that she had created the illness, and then discovered how to heal herself, by changing her thoughts, letting go of negative emotions, adapting a more positive attitude, and a relaxed, healthier lifestyle. Once she’d recovered, Paula decided to build her confidence and self-esteem, she freed herself of fears and anxiety, learnt how to love and accept herself, and began at last to believe in herself. Paula discovered that life has no meaning unless we give it some ourselves. Her life is now a very exciting adventure. 

Different Perspectives for a Different World, is a collection of essays written over a period of two years, where Paula hopes to share some of the insights and wisdom she has learnt and applied to her own life. Things that have helped her to cope and get through some very tough times and which will hopefully help you, the reader, to see your life and experiences from a different perspective too!



ABOUT THE AUTHOR

 


This is Paula O’ Sullivan’s first book. Paula has two sons and lives in Blessington, Co. Wicklow in Ireland and is originally from Walkinstown in Dublin. She is a Motivational Writer, Artist, Photographer, Hypnotherapist, Life Coach and Reiki Practitioner, and a bit of an entrepreneur! She is deeply interested in conscious creation and the power of our thoughts and emotions in the creation of our reality and health issues. At the time of writing this book, she is researching the causes of illness, psychoneuroimmunology, metaphysics, energy fields, consciousness, and environmental issues to name a few!

 

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www.i-want-a-better-life.ie
and Blog:
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Acknowledgments

A big thank you to all my friends and family who have helped and supported me on my journey so far, your love and kindness, kind words and hugs have made a big difference in my life. Thank you to my sisters Anna and Elaine, my niece Liz and my friends, Jane Auld and Fiona Snodgrass for being there for me when I needed you, and for helping me through one of the most difficult years in 2016. Thank you to the new friends I made over the past year and on the Art course. Thank you to Kathryn, Sarah and Iveta, for kindly doing Craniosacral/ Reiki and Karma Clearing therapy swaps with me over the past few years. Thank you to all the lovely people I’ve met on my Life Coaching Diploma Course, and of course all who I trained with for Hypnotherapy and Reiki too. Thank you to all the people who support the craft fairs I run and who buy from my craft stall. Thank you to all the clients who have come to me. Thank you to all who have read the first edition of this book and my blog. Thanks to all who comment and like my facebook posts, my photography etc. Thank you to all the people I have met with or interacted with on my life path to date, there are far too many to mention all by name, but you are all in my heart, you have all taught me something about life, whether you were a blessing or a lesson, you are all contributors to this book. Your contribution to my life is much appreciated. I would also like to thank my friend Sharon Mellon for designing the beautiful cover for this revised edition. May you all be loved, may you all be happy, and may you all be well, Namaste x




Foreword

Problems cannot be solved by the same level of thinking that created them”

Albert Einstein


We are living in challenging times. Despite the existence of great wealth in the world, many people exist below the poverty line; illnesses and diseases appear to be on the increase. Many people are living in fear, hope-lessness and despair. Crime and suicides are on the rise… what are we to do? We can continue to blame God, the government our parents, each other etc… or we can start looking at things from a different perspective.

This book is a collection of essays that I have written over two years. In these essays it is my intention to share some insights that I have learned on my journey with you. It is my hope that they will inspire and enlighten you to see the important part that you play in your world. You see… I discovered something amazing a few years ago, and it changed my life completely. I became ill and I later dis-covered that I had unconsciously created my own illness, I discovered that I had created my own misery, my own suffering I discovered that the poor quality of my life was being created by myself, my habits and my attitude, and this was a real eye opener. Up until then I was asleep. The day I woke up was the day my life started to change for the better. I started taking full responsibility for my health. I changed my diet, exercised more, nothing much really, just a daily walk, but it made a difference. I started to deal with the stress in my life. I read a few books on stress, NLP, and then I read ‘You can heal your life’ by Louise Hay and started putting into practice what I’d read. I learned to meditate, I became aware of my thoughts and emotions, and found out how I could change them when necessary.

I started listening to my body and what it was telling me. If I was in pain, I would ask myself, ‘What emotion or thoughts are you holding onto that is paining you?’ If I was feeling like I was getting a cold, I would ask myself, ‘Do I need more rest, more time for myself, or do I need to nourish myself more?’ I stopped thinking that the world couldn’t survive without me, and I started to make a better work life balance for myself. Yes even when I was unemployed, there was always work to be done in the house, looking after the kids, and that can take up all of your time if you let it.

Then I started listening to self-hypnosis CD’s and they worked. Through all of this learning I realized that we have a choice to be miserable or to be happy. We have a choice to react to things in any way we choose. We can ‘Do Drama’ or we can ‘Do Calm’, it’s up to us, and that by choosing a different reaction, a different attitude, we get different results.

I discovered that if we want the world to change, that it must begin with us, as individuals. Most of us are stuck in our ego mind though, we think, ‘Why should I change?’ ‘Why should I make the first move?’ ‘What’s in it for me?’ We say things like ‘I’ve given enough’, and we shut down, close our hearts and distance ourselves, and we suffer, oh boy do we suffer.

I discovered that when we learn to love and accept ourselves completely, that we are stronger inside, more balanced, more assertive, not aggressive, but able to decide better what is best for us. When we are more loving to ourselves, we don’t criticize or judge ourselves like we used to, we are kind instead. And with this kindness inside, we find it easier to be kind outside to others.

Life has no meaning… until we give it some our-selves… and when we do… oh such joy! I sincerely hope that after reading this compilation of essays, that you will see that you have a choice to view your life from a Different Perspective and in doing so, that you realize that you can indeed create a Different World for yourself and others.

I’ll finish with a quote that really inspires me:


Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous’? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others’

Marianne Williamson


You don’t have to stand on your head to get a different perspective, sometimes you just need to step to the side a little! I hope you get as much enjoyment out of reading this as I got out of writing it. Lots of love and light to all of you. Namaste.



Chapter One

What we are today comes from our thoughts of yesterday, and our present thoughts build our life of tomorrow. Our life is the creation of our mind’

Buddha (563 BC- 483 BC)

Ah Tis Nice to Be Nice

Ah tis nice to be nice, for any motorists out there, have you ever been sitting in slow moving traffic, nobody's going anywhere fast, and out of the goodness of your heart you decide to let that car out in front of you, and they blink their lights to say thanks, and you feel good, and then you notice, that car lets someone out in front of them too, and you feel connected somehow, and you wonder will they do the same, and they do... And you're on a happy buzz of niceness... because you're a nice person, right?

And then the mean thought comes into your head. You think, ‘Bloody hell, if this keeps up, I'll be here all day!’ And worse, you think, ‘I bloody started this!’ Now you can choose to get mean and stay mean and never let anyone out in front of you for the rest of the day.

Or you can continue to be courteous, because you're a nice person right? You may well find if you stay nice, that somewhere along your journey, people will start letting you out too! But hey don't blame me if they don’t! I hope you all have a nice day, every day, and that you don't get stuck behind me in traffic, because I'm nice!

The What if Game

Have you ever played the ‘What if Game?’ You know the one… What if I won the lotto… what if I had everything I wanted, what if my partner, husband, wife, lover, brother, sister, co-worker wasn’t so God damned lazy, insensitive, angry etc. etc. etc… what if everything was perfect, no hassles, no worries, what if, what if, what if… what if I didn’t have to do this, what if I didn’t have to do that… wouldn’t life be just so wonderful?

Sound familiar? Thought so! I’ve played this game too! Now the thing that bothers me about this game, is it doesn’t make us feel very good, in fact it really adds to our feelings of powerlessness and dissatisfaction and discouragement doesn’t it? So why do we continue to play it?

Loads of shaking of heads I’m guessing… Oooooh dunno! Well me neither, so I’m in a playful mood today, do ya want to try a new game?

This is also called the ‘What if Game’, but it’s a little bit different, stay with me it goes a little like this…

What if… just for today… everything is perfect, naw, naw, don’t scream at me, hear me out! What if just for today, for this moment I accept what is happening in my life, what if I take a deep, deep breath and say this is okay, this is all okay, I accept where I am right now, I may not be terribly happy or content with what life is throwing at me, but hey here I am, this is where I am, right now, and I stop struggling, and I stop trying to control things and trying to make things happen and I stop resisting, and all is still for a moment, amidst the chaos, and in this strange silence I suddenly realize that I am creating my own feelings of suffering, that I am creating my own feelings of being a victim. And my life whirls around me at a dizzying speed, yet I am still in the center of it, but it is not bothering me now, I am observing all my perceived hassles, I am observing all my perceived suffering.

Like a fly who has landed on a web, but I choose to remain still, because I know if I struggle I will become more entangled, and life is kind of like that too. We fight life and it fights us back. So much of what we resist persists because we resist it! And we find it difficult in this turmoil to find the right answers, the right solutions, and yet if we choose to accept what is happening, our mind clears and the answers are found so easily.

What if I step into the shoes of those people who irritate me now and see that nothing they do is because of me, but it is because of them? We do things because of us, every behavior has some kind of payback. So there is no point in ranting about that person that you perceive to be lazy, for I gather they are just doing the amount of work that suits them, and if you are doing more than you feel you should, then the issue is with you, not them. Oh I can hear your screams, but it’s true. We have the choice to put more or less effort into things and we complain that others don’t reach the same high mark and we label them lazy, think about it, it makes me laugh anyway!

What if I accept the things that happen today as just that? We make plans and something happens to change the plan and we get all upset, like the world would end if what we plan doesn’t happen. We hold rigid views that it must be this or that way or else it doesn’t happen.

We are so inflexible to life, and we create hassles and problems for ourselves. Now that I’m thinking this way most of the time I make plans A, B, C, D and so on and I am not attached as much as I was to certain outcomes. I allow things to take their course now, more than I did in the past. And I am very chilled out now. I see life as a series of challenges each day and I ponder as they present them-selves to me, on how best I can work with what I have, now.

This has made a huge difference in my life and I just thought I’d share with you too, and hopefully if you play this game too, you may find that in no time at all, you’ll be so laid back, you’ll be practically horizontal!

A Pause for Thought

Here’s a question for you. Have you ever thought about your thoughts?

You see, it’s just that I didn’t for most of my life; I always kind of took them for granted. It never ever entered my head, that I had the ability to affect my own thoughts, and if you’re like me (as I was then) you will notice, if you give this subject some attention today, that a myriad of thoughts enter our heads daily. We may wake up, and an avalanche of negative thoughts about our coming day, make us think twice about getting up. We think about everything that we don’t have, and about everything that we want, but feel we’re not good enough to get! We worry and fret over things that haven’t even happened and probably won’t ever happen! Worse still we constantly go over and over the past, re living past hurts and grievances, as if we could actually change the past! (We can’t folks, we really can’t) We can change how we think about it though.

What I want to share with you all, if you don’t already know this (if you do, please be patient with me, as I learn I share, if you’re more knowledgeable, please share with me) is that we can actually filter our thoughts. Yes it’s possible to stop all the negative crap from taking over your valuable brain. We can stop ourselves from wasting time re-living the past. We can stop ourselves from worrying. We can change our lives, when we discover that we have the power to think thoughts that will make a positive difference in not only our lives but to those around us too.

Ok, I hear a big HOW? I guess I’d better tell you what I’ve learned so… firstly, be patient and kind with yourself, this takes time. Sorry no quick fix, it happens to you when it happens, but be consistent, it really works!

To clear our heads of negative thoughts we begin, one thought at a time. Keep your sense of humor, you’ll need it. The next negative thought that comes to visit your head, show it the door, and tell it to talk to the hand. The minute it comes in, say ‘Not welcome’ and replace it with something positive. Now don’t moan and say ‘Aw, gawd that’s not easy’, just do it! Do it one thought at a time, every time. Or stay as you are. If you want to be in a different place, I’ll show you how to get there, but you have to do the work!

Reinforce positive thoughts by using affirmations, for example, ‘I approve of myself’, ‘I believe in myself’, ‘I love myself’, ‘I am strong in the face of adversity’, etc. Even if you don’t believe them at first, keep repeating. Use them every day as often as you can for at least 30 days, this is the time it takes for us to form a habit. Although it can happen faster, if you incorporate your emotions and feelings with this and get a feeling for what you are saying, and if you can play positive mental pictures in your mind of what you do want to happen, it makes it much more powerful!

Don’t feed your mind with negative stuff. You become what you focus on. Start seeking positive people to interact with, they will help you. Seek affirmation websites, books and CDs. Bombard yourself with positive stuff at the start, so it will crowd out the negative thoughts. And dare I say it… switch off the TV! It was the best thing I ever did. I now use my mind to help and support others, instead of becoming paralyzed with fear because of what I was allowing into my mind, which had left me incapable of helping anyone, let alone myself!

Finally, believe you can achieve it and you will. If you can get a clear picture in your mind of doing this… then you’re already halfway there. The other half is your action!

Are You Getting Warmer?

When I was a little child, I used to play a game with my friends. I don’t recall if we had a name for it, but it went something like this…

Someone would hide an object and as the searcher got further away from finding it, the other person would say ‘You’re getting colder, you’re freezing’ etc. etc. and as they got closer to finding the object, the other person would say ‘You’re getting warmer, you’re boiling’, it was good fun. We spent many a happy hour or two playing this game.

Now, I’ve had some very challenging years, and there’s very little of the ‘me’ I used to be, left. I’m just not the same person that I was back then. I have changed so much, mind, body, spirit, that some of my old friends hardly know me.

Over these past years, like this game I mentioned, I’ve had to constantly ask myself the same questions, ‘Am I getting warmer? Am I getting nearer to what I really, really want? Are my thoughts, words, actions, bringing me closer to, or further away from where I want to be? Are my motives and reasons correct? Are they for the highest good of all, or are they little old me being selfish?’ And no, I can’t tell you that it gets easier to answer these questions the more aware we become. But I can tell you that we can make happier choices depending on our answers.

So many questions come with change, I can look back and remember a time when it was too painful to think, because if I started to think, then I would have to change, and the thoughts of that were nearly worse for me at the time than to stay in the painful state of numbness, sadness, illness etc. that I was in.

But the time did come when it was more painful to not change, and life came and asked me to dance, and I decided to say ‘Yes’ this time, because I’d spent most of my life saying ‘Thanks, but not this time, I’ll sit this one out’…. And yes I can see why people will stay unhappy; I can see why they won’t make changes, I can see why they will remain with closed hearts, closed minds, angry and resentful at a world that denied them their dreams, and I want to say, ‘I UNDERSTAND YOU’, I was there, not so long ago. And I want to tell you that life is very short, to be blaming the world for what you’re missing, when you can actually do something about it yourself, today, right now in this moment.

We can take our excuses to the grave if we like, or we can awaken and ask ourselves, ‘What do I really, really want?’ Visualize it over there in front of you, not too far away... Now ask yourself ‘Are the thoughts I’m thinking, are the words I’m saying, is the story I’m telling, are the actions I’m doing, right now, bringing me closer or further away from what I really, really want? Am I getting warmer?’ And if you’re not, if your answer is no, maybe, just maybe this would be the best moment to ask yourself ‘WHY?’


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