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Quest for the “W”



WHEN WINNING IS EVERYTHING



By Indy Lindsey

Published by ND Playground at Smashwords

Copyright 2017 Indy Lindsey







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Atlanta, Georgia

Copyright © 2017 by Indy Lindsey



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Published by ND Playground

Unless otherwise indicated, scripture is taken from the King James, and New King James version of the Bible, from public domain of Bible Gateway.





ISBN: 978-0-9980177-0-9

ISBN: 978-0-9980177-1-6 (ebook)

DEDICATION

I WOULD LIKE to dedicate Quest for the ‘W’ to my children, because through good and bad, their actions helped to inspire me, and for that I’m grateful. I love you!

A special thanks to my oldest son, Regus. Thank you for being my biggest supporter. You cheered me on through my valley experience when I was stricken with dismay. You always acknowledged my tireless efforts and sleepless nights when working on this book because you saw my vision. It meant the world! Thank you and I love you.

To Vesta, my day 1, thanks for being a loyal best friend. I love you girl.

To the boys, Cam and Chaz, I love you guys and remember that you can do anything you set your mind to doing.

Malik, my ride or die, your love is a constant motivation. I love you!

To all my supporters, I hope this book inspires you, motivates you, make you laugh and most importantly, help place you in position to win.

TABLE OF CONTENTS

Acknowledgements

Introduction

Chapter 1 The Image

Chapter 2 The Job

Chapter 3 The Hustle

Chapter 4 The Friendship

Chapter 5 The Family

Chapter 6 The Game

Chapter 7 The Booty

Chapter 8 The Relationship

Chapter 9 The Fear & The Faith

Chapter 10 The Growth (The W)

End Notes

About The Author

ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS

FIRST AND FOREMOST, I thank God for never giving up on me and loving me when I truly didn’t deserve it. You have been my rock during my weakest moments in life and I thank you Jesus. You never cease to amaze me! As an adolescent, I had hopes of writing one day, but never followed through. You knew my passion, gave me the vision, and placed me in position for it to finally come to pass. My love for you is infinite.

Secondly, I want to thank my mom, although you are no longer here on this earth, I know you’re smiling down on me. You always said, I can do anything I set my mind to doing. Your weaknesses during your struggles when I was growing up helped to make me stronger. You did the best you knew how with what you were given. Words cannot express how much I love and miss you, Mom.

Third, I want to thank my family that I rarely get to see, because in some form or fashion each of you impacted my life. Gabrielle (my Munchiedo), Raja, Malachi, Isaiah, Amethyst, Anteria, Mia, sisters, brothers, nieces and nephews. Just because you’re out of sight, does not mean you’re out of mind. I love you.

Next, I want to thank my sister, Mary. Growing up we were two peas in a pod. Wherever I went, most of the time you were sure to follow. We started this journey together with our books. I know I constantly nag you about your procrastination, but that’s because I want you to live up to your full potential little sis. Life has been something serious for us, but our best and brightest days are still ahead. I love you!

Finally, I want to thank the man who told me to keep my head up. He taught me that it was ok to ask if I didn’t know because even the genius ask questions. Yes, I’m talking about Tupac Shakur. Words cannot express what you mean to me because of the impact you made in my life. Through a very dark period in my life when my father and I could not see eye to eye, your lyrics and interviews helped to transform my life. Your honesty and transparency were beyond refreshing because you shared with the world who you were even though many took it for granted, I embraced it. You taught me that against all odds it was ok to stand up for what I believe. Most importantly, you taught me to stay true to myself. Yes, sometimes my big mouth gets me in trouble, but when I’m right, I refuse to be silenced. Sometimes when I feel like throwing in the towel, all I can hear you saying is handle it, so I do! Thank you, Pac, for being my ambassador of subjectivity. My love for you is immeasurable. Long live ‘The Realest’. .

INTRODUCTION

A QUEST IS about seeking something of importance to the individual. That quest may be a journey for happiness, success, stability or perhaps a relationship. Some of you may ask, what is a “W” (pronounced dub) A “W” is a win or the willingness to win. In life, we all strive in some form or fashion to be victorious in our endeavors regardless to what they are and ultimately, we are all not that different, just our tactics when it comes to winning. We attempt to place ourselves in situations that we believe will allow us to be successful not fully contemplating the outcome. I’m a firm believer that negative thinking patterns are often the root of the problem and produces failure because our actions are direct results of our thoughts. Let’s be honest, when it comes to the end-result, sometimes people set aside morals all in the name of the W that they seek.

The question to ponder is ‘what methods should I use?’ Our knowledge and experiences in life provides us with a plethora of options; however, the methods in which we explore those options are left up to us and sometimes we fail to make the best choices. It doesn’t matter the obstacles at that given time because all we envision is winning. Throughout the journey of life many challenges arise and often become setbacks. In that moment, we either become defeated or use those trials as motivation to conquer the quest. There comes a time when we must decide if we will be the title of the story or just a mere footnote. Hopefully this book will be somewhat of a jewel and allow you to see things from a unique perspective. We all may come from different walks of life but we all want to win; therefore, it’s not too late to be on your quest for the W.

CHAPTER 1

THE IMAGE

IN THE WORLD of today one’s image has become extremely polarizing. The entertainment industry has established a stigma that young women must look a certain way or be a certain type to be impactful. That is by far the biggest misconception of reasoning and unfortunately has left a negative connotation on many women.

To be impactful on a positive level there must first be self-love and sense of direction.

Some women fail to realize that perception of self, is a key factor to the overall image.

SELF-IMAGE

To embrace our image, we must start with self- awareness. It is imperative to know who we are, what we have been through, and how we overcame those challenges. Often, life experiences can impact our lives without us being knowledgeable of what’s taking place thus causing low self- esteem and lack of self-worth. Most negative experiences such as, bullying, molestation, abusive relationships, and family issues, can have a direct impact on how we feel about ourselves. Such experiences can leave a negative imprint in our lives, unfortunately, not all encounters are good ones but it is how we channel the energy from those situations that will allow us to embrace who we are and focus on the betterment of self.

Regardless to the situations that have taken place in our lives, we must view ourselves as worthy. Some may ask, ‘how can I be worthy when I’ve been treated as less’? The answer is very simple, develop the confidence needed to propel you to greatness. It must come from within and you must learn to love yourself despite what you have been through. Turn the negative energy into positive energy. Do not allow negative situations to dictate who you are or where you want to be in life. Confidence is essential in being productive individuals because self-image has an impact on our happiness. If we do not believe that we are worthy of acceptance, then how can we expect others to believe?

LOST GIRL

What do you think the self-image of a little girl growing up in a household with an abusive step-father would be? Imagine her innocence slipping away as she watches her mother getting abused and her mother’s means of escape becomes alcohol. The step-father decides to up the ante by eventually making advances toward the little girl. She refuses to succumb to his requests so the physical abuse begins. The little girl feels helpless because her mom is in no position to help so she takes her cry for help to a friend. The child is freed from the situation, but the psychological damage had already been done. With no father in her life to teach her the value of love from a man she wonders aimlessly during adolescence on a quest to find it.

PERCEPTION OF OTHERS

Many often concern themselves with how others view them and it causes them to make changes that aren’t necessary. A prime example is the size of a woman. Society has placed a stigma on many women that are oversized because it is not deemed to be the ideal image. Another example that has become an epidemic in young women of today to feel good about themselves is getting butt injections or implants. It totally baffles me why women would go through such extremities to gain approval. By no means am I saying that there is anything wrong with enhancing who you are if it makes you feel better about yourself. The point I am conveying is women who are affected by such perceptions resort to different measures of surgical procedures not considering the long-term ramifications when altering the body.

Self-love should not come with a price that could result in botched surgeries or ultimately, death. First, you must love yourself enough to see yourself as beautiful just the way you are. Second, if something becomes a dominating factor in your life that is causing you unhappiness then find a healthy solution to become a happier you. If someone says that your stomach is fat, does that automatically convey that you need to get liposuction or some sort of surgery to reduce the fat? Absolutely not! That is simply an opinion. If you are comfortable with the way your stomach looks, then nothing needs to be done because you are content with the way it looks; however, if your stomach fat has bothered you all along and an outside opinion made you feel compelled to do something then try some healthy exercises that will get you the results you desire. Here’s a better example to drive home the point. If someone stated to you that they hated your skin color, does that mean you should bleach your skin or darken it to appease them? Others perception of you should not be a determining factor because their opinion does not make it factual and can often be very distorted.

Our strengths and weaknesses become a direct manifestation of how we view ourselves, how we perform and how others value us. There is always room for improvement, but the improvement needed should be something you deem necessary and not someone else. Perception of yourself will directly impact your self-image therefore, a full assessment of self, will allow you to look at your potential and assets while also examining your limitations and liabilities. Focus on the things that you offer, then the things you desire to work on by setting realistic healthy goals to become a better you. A quick fix by someone’s else standards or views can lead to disruptive behavior like alcohol abuse, drug addiction, eating disorders or suicide.

You keep the power by knowing that you are worthy. Sure, we all want to look in the mirror and be happy with what we see, but it must first ignite from within. Imagine everyone walking around looking, acting, dressing and working the same. How boring would that be? We were uniquely and beautifully created therefore, we must embrace those differences. Positive self-image allows us to operate on a higher frequency emotionally, physically, mentally, spiritually and socially. Do not allow others to dictate what you should look like to feel good about yourself. Acceptance of ourselves is the key element to getting the W.

PUBLIC IMAGE

Public image can be a bit tricky because some people put on a facade to display an exterior to capture the attention of others which can often be ingenuine. The fact of the matter is we want to remain true to who we are when it comes to our public image. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that when it comes to a job interview or business endeavor that we shouldn’t dress for the occasion or conduct ourselves accordingly; quite the contrary, we should be our absolute best.

Refining our demeanor is often necessary when it comes to social functions, but it’s imperative to not lose who we are while doing so, because it helps to develop character. We want to be known for who we are and not what others want us to be. Sure, there is always room for growth and development for each of us, but allow it to be your decision and not the decision of someone who wants to pass judgement on your character. Embrace who you are while figuring out the adjustments that will enhance your growth. Another pandemonium that has consumed today’s society is designer labels. People seem to lose their minds when it comes to ‘keeping up with the Joneses’ and what they’re wearing. Is there a problem with adorning ourselves with wonderful things? Absolutely, not! The problem that I’ve seen with some people is the chasing of those labels and neglecting their responsibilities.

If you can afford the labels you see celebrities, entertainers and rappers wear and talk about then kudos to you, but if your budget does not accommodate such things then you need to prioritize and take care of your responsibilities. If you can afford the attire of the upper echelon without having to sacrifice a necessity then by all means, enjoy it to the fullest.

In any case, when it comes to labels whether you over extend your finances or you have money to blow, do not allow materialistic items to define who you are as a person. Your confidence should be so immense that you can wear the cheapest of items and still look like a star. Your image begins with how you feel about yourself and does not include allowing others to dictate what defines you. In understanding this ideology then you are off to a great start for being a happier you. Understanding who you are will enable you to live on a purpose and be on a quest for the W.

CHAPTER 2

THE JOB

MANY OF US have had to work at some point in our lives. It may have been out of pure necessity, but nevertheless, it had to be done. Not all work experiences will be the same because if you do not love what you do or it’s not what you envisioned then more than likely it will not last long.

I’ve had a couple of experiences that left a sour taste in my mouth as I’m sure some of you can relate. The companies that do not appreciate their employees or the companies with the messy people that want to see you fail are nothing more than a stumbling block. (Urban dictionary calls these type of people Petty Betty’s)

Those stumbling blocks can become stepping stones if you pay attention to the lessons you take away from the experience.

During these experiences, I had to work through pettiness, racial tensions, jealousy and pure ignorance. Thankfully, I have the mentality of a warrior; therefore, I would not allow weak attempts to destroy my character to go unanswered. Unfortunately, everyone doesn’t have tough skin so it’s important to understand your worth in the workforce and the intricate factors that can become a hindrance to your quest.

RESEARCH THE COMPANY

When it comes to working for a company it is extremely important to do your research if you want to put yourself in position to win. I recommend researching the company prior to interviewing. Look for reviews left by consumers or past employees. The reviews will provide insight as to how the company treats their employees and consumers. With the technology of today, it’s very easy to retrieve information about a company. I would recommend following the company on social media to interact with current or past employees.

You want to find out how long the company has been in business because there are a ton of companies in existence only for the short-term gain. Other concerns should be the company’s policies, culture and environment to see if they align with your expectations and abilities. If there are policies in place that are a direct contradiction to your moral compass, abilities or beliefs then for sure that company is not for you. I do understand that sometimes the economy can place us in tough situations and we find ourselves settling for what comes first. At one point, that was the story of my life. My need for work to support my family took precedence over everything else.

I’ve accepted jobs that didn’t pay the fair market value to their employees. In doing so, I found myself still struggling to make ends meet. Eventually those conditions led to a hustler’s mentality (we’ll discuss in a later chapter) because the job failed to deliver. I allowed my financial need to supersede my career goals which became a major hindrance for my growth within a company. If you are not dealing with an economic hardship, yet striving to make a career within a company, by all means, conduct the needed research. Know the company for which you are willing to dedicate your time to ensure it will be a good fit for you and your livelihood. You don’t want to find yourself stuck at a job that does not appreciate what you bring to the table because it will directly impact your life in a negative manner. You will find yourself spreading negative vibes and often upsetting those around you because you are unhappy with your job.

THINE COIN (THE PAY)


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