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Precious Okechukwu Gabraels


That moment when we feel so down, that moment when all hope is lost, that moment when... It seems we are long gone... There can be a come-back, there can be a "reset" of situations, things can still come back to normal... What matters is "how prepared are you to stop the shipwreck?"

So many times in our life, we have come upon a situation where we wished for the end to come, a "little" reminder could help bounce you back on track; knowing that the end is not yet here creates a special kind of strength and energy that surges into our whole being, bringing back our determination and purpose.

This book is especially dedicated to those people out there, going through one or many bad times in their life; there is still hope in that storm, you just have to keep faith and hope alive :)


Chapter 1: The ShipWreck

A popular saying goes that "life is not a bed full of roses" in addition to that, one can say "life is not a bed full of roses, but has little pieces of damaged glass and splint". Yes, it's as factual as it sounds.

Once upon a time, a young scientist was able to amass some loans and built him a large science laboratory with ongoing research and breakthroughs. One morning, he came to work in his lab only to find it ablaze, burning in flames. He smiled, picked up his phone and made a call to his wife 'honey, wow, something wonderful is happening here right now, can you come around?' The wife came only to find her husband’s multi-million laboratory ablaze, and was surprised the husband hasn't fallen into the flames in agony and grief. The young scientist was just standing and smiling at the scene. Later, when asked why he exhibited the strange attitude he said "in the midst of the flame, I saw an opportunity to create something bigger and better"

Shipwreck can come to us in various forms, ranging from a sack letter from your boss to a heavy failure in career or business venture. Everybody has his/her own speck and taste of failure but what happens after is what matters most. Do you go and hang yourself? Point a gun at your forehead and pull the trigger? Go over a train station and lie down on the rail tracks? Go to the top of your building and jump down?

Question is this: After you end your life, what next? Is death a solution to a matter as this? Death is a more grievous feeling than any shipwreck and therefore, is no solution to it. Once a sailor encounters a major problem on sea, he first finds a way to the bank of the water and then plans how to take down the problem and continue his journey, most times, a new ship is constructed or purchased... HE DOESN'T GET HIMSELF DROWNED. He simply works towards finding a solution.

Now we have our first consideration:

- Retreat/Goal Setting

Another saying goes thus: "your body can withstand nearly EVERYTHING, it's your mind that you'd have to convince" that is absolutely correct. Now that leads us to our second crucial point:


Chapter 2: Retreat and Goal Setting

A retreat is an opportunity to engender creativity -- a time to remove your nose from the grindstone and look to the hills, a chance to think about what ought to be -- and devise steps to get there.

During enemy assault, mostly when the "good guys" (army, navy, police etc) are caught unawares by the villain and fire is started to be exchanged. The first line of action they take is to do a temporal retreat. They flee into holes and encampments where they can stay and get themselves organized, and then they move out after getting orders from their leader.

During a major or minor setback, do one thing: RETREAT. That you retreated doesn't mean you have surrendered. Simply go into oblivion (figuratively speaking), then SET yourself up. Remember the sailor that got shipwrecked on sea, he swam and got to the bank and then made plans on how to continue the journey.

How do you start planning?

1) Identify the problem: Every problem has a name and some attributes that would serve as markers and also has an explanation of its nature and circumstances of its existence.

2) Identify the source: a bad root could damage a huge tree. What caused the shipwreck? What was its backbone? Brainstorm this aspect of the identification

3) What are the spoilers for this setback?: every problem has a weakness, find it out, map it out.

Goals are set-points or simply what you plan to achieve. Note the word "PLAN". You plan how to come out and face off with the impending problem.

This is what will occupy your retreat session. To retreat doesn't mean to go back and relax or start lamenting your sorrows; remember, when ever you meet a challenge, your walk of life simply stops, therefore you have to fight your way out of the problem (not dodge or swerve past it), that way, you will continue moving forward without past hindrances re-surfacing.

Retreats can be used to:

~ Engage in a planning process that involves all the major units or contributors

~ Take stock of progress in a project

~ Engender creativity and synergy around problems or future directions

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