by Bonface Khatete at Smashwords
2016 Bonface Khatete
Happiness comes before success
a life full of challenges, expecting solutions from other people and
the world around us makes life a nightmare. Like us, people have
their own challenges too, others have even much bigger problems than
us, and they want to hear solutions, not more problems. Depending on
them makes you a problem too.
you focus on depending on other people you impoverish yourself by
letting your talents and dreams lie waste and you impoverish others
by slowing them down on their quests towards realizing their dreams
you ever heard the saying: ‘there are no jobs’. That is why many
people believe they are poor. However, the main problem is, they have
given up on their visions which offer solutions to other people’s
problems. Yet they are these solutions that people pay for.
world full of problems and obstacles only offers a world full of
dreams, possibilities and solutions waiting to be executed and people
waiting to be paid for executing them.
world is in need of solutions and solution bearers. You cannot afford
to bury your visions and depend on the fruits that come from the
visions of others yet there is plenty of work to be done and plenty
of problems to be solved.
is a perfect opportunity to raise an empire and shelter people from
confusion. It is a ripe time for you to a rise and shine.
solutions to your future problems lie within you now in form of
visions. It is upon you to bring that vision out. When it blossoms,
people will take shelter under the empire you will have built, making
you a source of solutions rather than problems.
despair, all things seem impossible, mole hills grow into mountains
that seem unmovable. All that remains are wishes. Wishes of
prosperity and a good life.
no matter how hard we wish, the obstacles remain staring at us.
stare at us in form of academic failures, dysfunctional homes, failed
relationships, failed states, poverty and all sorts of problems.
of the times we blame ourselves. ‘It is my fault,’ we say. ‘Had
I done this or that, I wouldn’t be in this situation.” We
therefore embark on a mission to undo our faults with an aim of
escaping the repercussions. ‘If I just do this, I won’t have to
suffer anymore” we tell ourselves.
often times, what we think are solutions are just beginnings of other
difficult tasks which end up landing us into larger problems which
also become sources of even much bigger problems. It becomes a cycle
of failure that ends up in despair.
you have ever been in such a position you will understand that you
feel like a drowning man who does not know how to swim.
panic makes you want to kick all sides, and as you struggle, instead
of getting out of the stress, you find yourself sinking deeper
towards the bottom.
in this world: surrounded by many unexpected troubles and searching
for solutions to your problems could be equated to finding yourself
in deep waters, where you are required to swim to the top for
freedom; beauty, happiness and comfort in life so that you can at
least have some joy and air to breathe.
are only two choices; failing and perishing or winning and thriving.
Almost all of us are not at ease, the waters of life are suffocating
us. We are trying to swim out of our troubles daily, but we seem to
be swimming deeper into confusion and disappointment.
open your eyes only to find yourself in the depth of the ocean. Clear
waters surround you. Deep in the vast waters, you just realize you
are swimming towards the depth rather than back to the top.
your own shock, you find yourself swimming even much deeper towards
the ocean ground in every effort you make to escape the suffocation.
You get scared, disillusioned and more frantic. This makes you even
do not think you can ever make it to the top, and you think that a
shark you might have seen somewhere on top would catch you, so you
swim into a hideout. There, you hide. You would rather die there, in
the water, swimming deeper into the rocks and hope you will survive.
You desire to get to the top, but find yourself stuck to the bottom,
yet you have all the potential you need to get to the top.
barely believe you will make it as powerfully as you should. You have
just not yet set your heart into believing and you fear believing
will not work, so you react instead of acting. You act out of
disbelief instead of acting out of faith.
is the state of millions of people around the world; we are just
reacting to the situations we have found ourselves in.
do not have time to plan and work our way out of our circumstances.
We even don’t know how to focus on exactly what we want in life,
but still get surprised when we fail in our efforts.
consistently directed positive effort towards our goal, it is
automatic to fail. But then, how do we consistently remain positive,
so that we can consistently put in effort without giving up? How can
we overcome despair before we even start so that we can be sure to
reach our purpose?
of despair many of us have given up on our visions, families,
friends, states and even the joy of just enjoying the fact that we
are alive today. Obstacles weigh us down every day, that is why some
of us give up along the way before we reach where we had intended to
of being blessings those things we love are becoming curses because
most of us cannot achieve them and we have to live with the fact that
we failed to live up to our expectations and gave up along the way.
own dreams and desires label us failures.
feel helpless and duped. It just becomes alright to exist rather than
live because we feel limited by obstacles and despair. It becomes
normal to fail, it has become even more normal to give up.
more you let your dreams and aspirations to rot away and decay, the
more your problems grow. The more you try to fight your way through
to make them work, the more frustrations you encounter.
becomes a dilemma because either way, you must suffer, if you give up
you suffer. If you persist you also suffer. Therefore you are
constantly in fear, you fear failure on one side so that you don’t
want to believe, and you also fear despair on the other side so that
you don’t want to give up.
this happens because instead of overcoming despair as just one of the
obstacles you have let despair overcome you and define your life.
Every time we start a project, we assume we are not going to face
despair, so, when it comes we can’t press past it.
is an illusion. It is only after the illusion disappears when you can
see the truth, but it can only disappear if you keep on walking
towards your vision courageously.
feel that if you give up on your dreams you will be relieved, but the
fact is that if you give up on dreaming and believing, life might
just become worse.
people even give up on their dreams and visions before they start
them because of the illusion that they will not be able to make it.
It is until they see other people making it that the illusion
disappears and they realize they too can make it.
same illusion is what guides us to saying that we cannot be happy
until we succeed. It tells us we cannot celebrate our victory before
seeing it. Therefore we are under the illusion that we must toil in
order to be happy and that it takes success in order to be happy.
is the same illusion that is used always to tell us things are
impossible and when we believe the illusion we fail. We fail not
because we are unable to succeed and are weak. But we fail because we
have been weakened by the lie and forced to underperform and give up.
introduces doubts into our visions which feed on our strength with
every obstacles that is thrown on our way.
need a lot of emotional energy and strength for us to conquer despair
and doubt; happiness.
is to say that we need happiness in order to be successful.
is why most of the obstacles target our happiness because without it,
we cannot accomplish much. Without happiness we give up quickly and
have less strength to continue, even with life itself. That is why
people give up.
seek happiness before success. Stop fighting with your life, start
actually enjoying the little things you do well. That will work out
much better than trying to correct all wrong things in your life at
once. Appreciate your desire to grow better and live a much noble
life, a life of happiness. Let that desire grow because it is good.
Do not suffocate it.