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I wish to express my
deepest gratitude to my wife Shilla for her invaluable help in
preparing this book. Many thanks to my mentors: Apostle Obey and
Apostle Nyasha for their encouragement.
To my future children.
Dad loves you!
& Foreword 6-7
is the Mind 10
power of the Mind 16
to use the mind 21
to renew the Mind: 32
30-day transformation 38
“This book is a must
read for anyone interested in improving themselves. The human mind is
more powerful than most people think. The first edition of this book
provides readers with a major key in teaching us how to use the mind
effectively. Many writers have proven that thoughts are what truly
shapes our lives and this book aims to be a manual for the mind. The
teachings are simple yet effective. There is a bonus collection of a
30-day transformation challenge to help you kick-start your mind
– Shilla Shomai
The mind is powerful.
According to Freud’s psychoanalytic theory of personality: “the
subconscious mind is a reservoir of feelings, thoughts, urges, and
memories that are outside of our conscious awareness’’. This is
one of the topics we will be discussing and finding a way to improve
our thoughts from past experiences in the chapter (how
to renew the mind). Another interesting topic
is differentiating the conscious and subconscious mind. The conscious
mind, being the awareness at the present moment and the subconscious
mind which is likened to an iceberg: it is like a huge memory bank.
Its capacity is virtually unlimited, it permanently stores
Stay tuned as we learn
all things to do with the mind!
What is the Mind?
Different religions and
cultures have different meanings of this term. The dictionary defines
it as ‘‘the element of a person that enables them to be aware of
the world and their experiences, to think, and to feel; the faculty
of consciousness and thought’’. It also states ‘‘a person’s
ability to think and reason, the intellect.’’
Some religious teachers
view the mind and the brain as two separate things. The mind is
‘‘some entity with different and undefined physical character’’
and that is the part that we are going to be focusing on. In
Christianity or Hebrew, they might refer to the mind as the heart,
the inner man. They go on further to say there is nothing in the body
that can specifically be identified as being our mind.
For example, sometimes
when we are relaxed and seated, our mind tends to be very active,
thinking and planning. This indicates that our body and mind are not
the same entity.
There appears to be no
single agreed-upon definition/explanation of what the mind really is.
Everyone has his or her own definitions. Well I’m not here to give
you a biology lesson, but, to help you understand how changing your
mindset can change your life. We are going to look at the two parts
of the mind most widely recognised by all people. After this, we will
be able to understand further how our mind works and how we can
improve our lives.
The subconscious part
of the mind cannot distinguish between real and imaginary
experiences, and therefore accepts both as real. It works tirelessly
attracting opportunities to make your reality match the images in
your subconscious mind. Hence, all the greatest writers have come to
‘‘as a man
thinketh, so is he’’.
You are what you think
about. This is a harsh reality to accept because we start to look at
what is happening in our lives and say, “I
did not think about that!” However, we must
realize that our lives do not only reflect our everyday thoughts, but
also our shadow thoughts & beliefs that are buried deep in our
subconscious mind. In other words, our lives attract what we think
about and this is a law that works constantly without fail.
The upside to this
however is, that we can reject bad thoughts and thus, start creating
an abundant life. This is something that we will go on to explore
further in the next chapters.
Your conscious mind is
the objective or thinking part of your mind. It has no memory, and
can only hold one thought at a time. It is continually sorting out
impressions, deciding which are relevant to you and which are not. We
will learn how we can improve our thinking later in this book. Just
remember, you have the power to decide what you think about!
The power of the
The mind is powerful
and it can change any circumstance in a person’s life. It has the
power to uplift or downsize a person. Your mind is fertile, whatever
you feed it, will germinate unless uprooted. The mind takes in what
you watch, hear, read and speak. Imagine a seed you plant: when it is
well watered and in good fertile ground, it will break forth and
start to grow. It takes time to germinate. You will not see its full
effect under the soil but the roots would have started to deepen.
That’s the same with our mind,
you take in your mind will harbor until it springs forth outwardly as
habits or characters.’’
How you perceive it
is how you receive it. There is a famous
saying, “at some point in life you made an
appointment to be here.” What it means is
that where you find yourself today is not a coincidence. Your
beliefs, thoughts and words have landed you where you are today. Even
for you to be reading this book, something has led you here.
We ought to take
responsibility for where we are. That way, it is easier to move
forward and improve.
- Bentley Francis
‘The mind is like
a fertile ground in which anything that is planted, flowers or weeds
Whatever you focus on
will grow; it is the nature of things everything likes to grow.
‘‘When you open
yourself to feel the abundance of the universe you will experience
the wonder, joy, bliss and all the great things that the universe has
for you; good health, good wealth, good nature, but when you shut
yourself off with negative thoughts, you will feel the discomfort,
you’ll feel the aches, you will feel the pain and you will feel as
if everything is painful to get through’’
‘‘As a man
thinketh so is he’’ What a powerful
statement. My favorite book to read says ‘‘whatever
things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just,
whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things
are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything
praiseworthy (meditate)(think)(dream) about these things.’’
Philippians 4:8 (NKJV).
You cannot plant lemons
and except to reap oranges or plant avocados expecting to see
bananas. Your mind is like the richest soil you will ever find. The
seeds in this illustration are the books you read, videos, movies,
words you speak, TV programs, games and more. Whether pictures or
words, the mind takes them in.
Only you can change
your thoughts. If a habit or thought has been around for a long time,
it will take day-to-day practice to eliminate that thought or habit.
We will learn how to
change our thoughts later in the book. Remember, we are what we think
How to use the
We can use our minds in
a variety of ways. Everyone has a different learning style therefore,
we all use our minds differently. Since what we think about we bring
about we can start to really enjoy life in abundance by simply
changing our thoughts.
I will give a scenario
that almost everyone has faced or will face at some point in life.
Imagine you are going
to deliver a presentation to your company, church, university etc.
There are two ways in which you can potentially approach the
situation. You can either look at each presentation that you are due
to deliver as a new presentation or, you can let your previous
experiences determine how you are going to perform. This method will
aim to work for both.
The first thing is to
have complete faith that what I will deliver is going to be the best
of me to date.
Visualize a perfect
presentation reflecting how you would like it to go. See your
Go deep into detail (it
is easier to keep an image in your head if there is a lot of
movement). See your outfit, smell the
perfume you will be wearing. Do your best to create a similar
environment in your mind using all your five senses
your subconscious mind thinks it’s happening at that present
moment, so, when you do it in real life, the confidence will follow
because your mind will recognize it as something it has already
Repeat, as often with faith
and attention. Your subconscious will accept these mental images as
You can use this
process with any situation; I call it, “mentally
creating my perfect tomorrow.” This method
can also change negative habits and build new, positive habits and
skills. Remember, we have power to channel our thoughts on positive
things. Identify that which needs improving and go ahead and change.
If you have ever had
negative experiences in the past, you must deal with them first
before you can fully change your mindset. You need to sit down in a
quiet place and replay the situation while altering it to reflect how
you would have wanted it to happen.
I believe you can
change; I have faith because it has worked for me and many other
great writers of the mind.
Just as we need to
think and feel good, our relationships require the same affection.
You cannot expect good healthy relationships when all you are filled
with is jealousy, envy, or hatred. What we see and expect
relationships to be is what they turn out to be. They turn out that
way because we have put all our focus and energy on that thought. For
every cause, there is a definite effect, ‘’if
you do not want to see it in your future do not be speaking about it
today’’. Forgive and forget, believe you
deserve good relationships and see yourself having good
Allow yourself to feel
healthy, and through faith, see yourself feeling good.
‘’Taking this to a deeper
level, research shows that DNA actually changes shape according to
As you think those
negative thoughts about the week ahead that hasn’t happened yet; or
that person who hasn’t said or done anything yet; even when the
very thing you are thinking of is not there, your mind will begin to
create that very situation that you are thinking of. The negative
thinking changes your brain into a negative state and throws your
mind and body into stress mode.
The bible says
‘Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for
tomorrow will worry about its own things. Sufficient for the day is
its own trouble.”
Mathew 6:24 NKJV
Success is not built
upon chance or luck, success is not determined outside of you;
success is created within you.
There is an old African
proverb that says ‘’if there is no enemy
within the enemy outside can do us no harm’’.
First, win within
yourself then win on the outside, not the other way around. The
outside cannot change the inside, therefore, if you have dreams that
you are chasing, believe within that you can make it. Visualize
yourself having already achieved that dream no matter how crazy it
may sound or appear. If your dreams offend someone, so what? dream
Remember, apart from
faith, you must get up and do what you believe you can do.
My favorite book to
read says ‘’Faith without works is dead’’
James 2: 14-26 NKJV
You create your
environment not the situation you are in. Therefore, if you can
create it, you can take it away. You are the creator of your
everything. What we hold predominantly in our subconscious mind is
what we see and what shapes our reality.
Begin your day by
telling the day how you would want it to treat you. Command your
Set out how you want
your day to go and the day will gladly give you that.
Character is a complete
sum of who you truly are.
It is defined as ‘’the
mental and moral qualities distinctive to an individual.”
control you; it is your psychological reaction to the situation that
causes the feelings.
Abraham Lincoln says
‘’Nearly all men can stand adversity, but
if you want to test a man's character, give him power.”
Character chooses to
reveal itself when man is under pressure or given power and wealth.
careful of your thoughts, for your thoughts become your words. Be
careful of your words, for your words become your actions. Be careful
of your actions, for your actions become your habits. Be careful of
your habits, for your habits become your CHARACTER. Be careful of
your CHARACTER, for your CHARACTER becomes your destiny.
The great thing about
all these things we have talked about, is that, your circumstances
are not permanent unless YOU permit them to be.
You can change any
circumstance; you can improve your character and live a better life.
In the next chapter, we will look at how we can change for the better
and I will also talk about how I fought through to be where I am
How to renew your
I remember a time when
I needed to gain confidence and have faith that I could be somebody
special. I had gone through somewhat 3 years of unfruitfulness in
every area of my life. I even finished University with a low mark,
fragile relationships, my walk with God was nonexistent and to top it
off, I had no money and no job. I found myself thinking of the past
mistakes I had made, the people I had hurt, the temporary decisions
that left permanent damage, the business ideas that fell through the
ground and all the money I had lost. The prospects of being
successful were far from sight. I became too afraid to even try.
Even from the time I
decided to change (which is key) I was still filled with images and
words from past experiences.
I realized along the
path, in order to change, I had to somehow be transformed by the
renewing of my mind. This was because, if what I was holding onto
then had come through negative experiences, I could begin to create
positive images through new experiences. I realized I could eliminate
bad thought patterns with patience and persistent practice.
I began to read my
favorite book, the Holy Bible and I listened to countless
motivational speakers everyday without fail. On my way to work on the
train; walking to work from the train; on my break at work and even
when I got home. I ate, breathed and socked myself with positive
reads and videos. My favorite motivational speaker has always been
Les Brown. I surrounded myself with friends that spoke the same
language. I stopped watching TV, stopped using social media and
stopped going out with friends. I totally isolated myself and it
worked. I am not advising you to be as extreme as I was, but, if you
can, then go ahead.
What I heard began to
be a part of me; it sprouted quickly in my mind and became my
character. I had new dreams, new innovations. I opened a company
Bentley Francis Designs and it was in the same year that I met my
beautiful wife. I got a beautiful job and bought a car. I achieved
more in less time than I would have ever achieved had I not renewed
It took persistent
action with patience. Les Brown says ‘’we
must be patient and engage in persistent action’’
which I think is a powerful way to start any change. We ought to keep
going; giving up is more painful.
If my mind can change
so can yours. It was hard for me to see good in myself. It was hard
to believe that I could be writing a book one day but here I am and
here you are, reading it. I hope this story inspires you to decide to
I have many other
experiences that I will share in my second edition. I have topics as
to how I overcame pornography, masturbation and bad thought patterns
through the battle in my mind.
I will be discussing
how I got to where I am today in my marriage, businesses, family and
other important relationships I made through right thinking.
For now, let us discuss
the process the mind goes through during the process of change. This
will help when trying to win the battle in your mind effectively.
After all, the enemy you know is better than the one you don’t
know. Knowing this process allows you to figure out a way to keep up
the good fight of faith.
The process the
mind goes through
Before we get started
on the 30-day transformation challenge, let’s take a look at some
of the challenges you might face along the way.
The mind will reject
what you are telling it because the information is new. It is not
used to being told you can do it, you can get over that relationship,
you can find peace again, so, it is like learning a different
This is the time when
you ask yourself: is this working? I don’t
see any change. My spiritual life is at a stand still. My habits are
not changing, my income is still the same and my business seems to be
Trust the work you are
putting in, something is happening it takes time just like a seed
that is planted takes time to take roots.
This frustration comes
from doing something you repeatedly said you wouldn’t or forgetting
to do something. I’m here to tell you that it is okay, be patient
with yourself, be kind to yourself, give yourself time and a million
chances. You deserve a million chances.
I have put together
affirmations that you can start with before you create your own
according to your goals and aspirations.
These are 30 days
lasting giving you the best transformation. Let’s call it,
“renewing our minds through directed thought
Use them every morning
to experience a day filled with abundance. Use them during the day,
in the morning and before you sleep also in conjunction with other
We have free choice to
learn, this means that we also have free choice to unlearn our
thoughts, behaviors and characters that we do not like.
We have free choice to
become proactive and conscious thinkers.
ALWAYS AND AT ALL TIMES
Your nature determines
When you do the right
thing, you will feel good.
your belief system.
Read, Listen, Attend
Focus on breaking one
habit at a time.
Create new habits.
Don’t focus on the
negative habit, rather, on the positive habit you are creating.
Continuously focus on
the positive habit you want to cultivate.
What your mind focuses
on is what it attracts
Your mind only
recognizes dominant words in a sentence.
(e.g. I am punctual is
better than saying I don’t want to be late) learn to say positive
The things you say
today will become your tomorrow.
It takes time to
change. Forgive yourself, forgive others and move on. Do not get too
hung up on your old habits.
Do not accept your
circumstance as your reality.
Focus on the end
result. What kind of a person will you be if you do your work
Get ready to fight
mental and spiritual battles.
Write down your goals
Change 1 habit at a
time, changing many habits at once will frustrate you.
Remember always, when
we change, our circumstances have no choice but to change.
I AM A good person.
I AM good looking.
I AM first.
I AM punctual.
I AM full of
I AM confident.
AM worthy of receiving the best in life.
AM responsible for my own life.
AM loving my life.
AM a terrific mother/father.
AM a great sister/brother.
AM a wonderful wife/husband
AM a caring person.
AM a money-magnet.
AM determined to succeed.
AM good with money.
AM blessed every day.